Discipline / Bullying
All pupils are expected to behave in a responsible manner both to themselves and to others, showing consideration, courtesy and respect for other people at all times. The emphasis lies in positive reinforcement and rewards and praise rather on sanctions and punishments. Setting and expecting high standards of behaviour, courtesy and mutual respect is our aim.
We are a Church School and promote Jesus’ command to love our neighbour as ourselves. This is at the root of what we expect of all members of our school community.
At San Sior we encourage good behaviour and self-discipline in order to achieve a high quality of education for all children. Our main aim is to encourage good behaviour through reward and praise. Sanctions are in place to discourage poor behaviour. We believe that this can be achieved by parents and all staff at the school working in partnership.
You will find our policy on Managing Behaviour and our Anti-bullying policies above.
Below are some further guidance on Understanding bullying. Bullying in any of its forms has no place in the school and will not be tolerated. The important thing to consider is that we have a strategy in place to identify bullying and to tackle bullying if and when it occurs
How to identify and help protect your child against bullying in school.
What is bullying?
Bullying is when someone intimidates or causes harm to another person on purpose. The victims of bullying can be verbally, physically or emotionally assaulted and are often threatened and made to feel frightened.
Bullying should not be viewed as an unfortunate but unavoidable part of school life. No child deserves to be bullied – it’s unacceptable behaviour and can have a devastating effect on the victim.
Bullying in school can include:
- verbal harassment – face to face, by phone, text or over the internet
- hitting, hair-pulling and kicking
- teasing and name-calling
- spreading rumours
- damaging possessions
- frightening and intimidation
- exclusion at playtime or from social events and networks
How can I tell if my child is being bullied?
Your child may not tell you that he or she is being bullied. However, you may notice some changes in his or her behaviour, including:
- unwillingness to go to school
- feeling unwell, often with a headache
- aggression towards you or others in your family
- waking in the night
- missing or damaged belongings
What should I do if my child is being bullied?
If you suspect your child is being bullied, don’t ignore it.
Find a quiet time to talk to your child. Explain that bullying is unacceptable and that no one should have to put up with it. Promise to do all you can to stop it.
Make an appointment to see your child’s class teacher as soon as possible. Useful tips for the meeting:
- Decide what you want to say and what you’d like to achieve from the meeting before you go.
- Try to stay calm even though you may feel angry and emotional.
- Don’t blame the teacher – he or she may be unaware of the bullying.
- Give specific examples of how your child is being bullied.
- Ask what the school’s anti-bullying policy is.
- Discuss what action the teacher will take.
- Arrange to meet again within two weeks to discuss progress.
If you’re unhappy with the way your child’s teacher deals with the situation – either at the meeting or after the school has taken action – make an appointment to see the head teacher and go through the same process described above.
Seek outside help from a specialist adviser if the bullying continues after you’ve spoken to the head teacher. Information on this is available from the following websites:
What should I do if my child is a bully?
If you suspect your child is bullying another child or other children, don’t ignore it.
A child who is bullying others often has problems of his or her own. Try to understand what may be causing this behaviour and think about what is going on in your own home. Bullying can be subtle, so watch your child’s behaviour closely.
Consider the following:
- Is your child going through a difficult time?
- Does your child feel overlooked or overshadowed?
- Could your child be copying someone else’s behaviour – maybe an adult or older sibling at home?
- Do other members of your family use aggression or force to get what they want?
- Are you allowing your child to use aggression or force to get what they want from other people?
Make sure your child understands that bullying is unacceptable. Encourage your child to be friendly, understanding and kind to others. Try to bolster friendships by inviting other children over to your home but watch out for any signs of bullying.